The Family Man

[Jack (Nick Cage) has suggested moving into the City and having all the rich things that he had in his old life.  Jack is married to Kate (Tia Leoni).]

Is it naive of Kate to want that?  I don't think it was too much to ask for, but the point I want to show in this clip is the power of love, true love.  True love, since our notion of love is so muddled by people's varying definitions.  When I say true love I mean St. Thomas Aquinas definition, "to love is to will the good of another."  Kate wills the good of her husband Jack.  She is willing to sacrifice her joys, her dreams for the sake of her beloved.  

She does not just throw her dreams away though, she holds on to truth.  She asks Jack, "if you really need this..." to see his commitment to the decision at hand.  Kate is not asking Jack to ignore himself, but asking what does he really need.  In essence, is this something that will make you happy?  This is exactly the kind of love that God looks at us with us.  He has this dream for us, this beautiful, full picture.  We so often tell God though that we need something other than this beautiful relationship full of life and happiness.  And just as Kate does in this clip, God says "if you really need this...because I choose us."  God chooses us and will follow us because He loves us.  The direction of this relationship believe it or not is left up to us.  We decide if we follow His dreams, His wants, or if we will pursue our own selfish desires.  

How often do we think God is naive in His wishes?  I ask you today to consider what God is asking of your relationship?  Spend some time mulling it over, think about what He wants out of the relationship?  Dialogue with the person who chooses you so much that He is willing to die on the cross to let you have your way.